REACTING VS. RESPONDING

It is better to bend than to break.

Aesop, Greek writer

 

I want to say that I respond to change.  The reality is that I react to change.  This is a major point that may alter your life and may even extend it by lowering your blood pressure.

I have certain hot buttons, such as lack of character, fairness, honesty, and authenticity.  If a person lies to me or is unfair, then I react.  What do I do?  My wife says that I power pout.  Or, I may say something harsh or untactful.  I can feel my rising blood pressure.  Not good!

The difference between reacting and responding is critical.  Reacting is a knee jerk reaction.  Reacting implies emotional, rooted in past experience, and counter productive.  Often we react with anger or bitterness based on past experiences.

Responding implies making a smart choice in terms of how we feel instead of reacting out of habit or circumstances.  Responding is empowering.  Responding entails understanding; correcting and preventing counter productive past behaviors.

Life Lesson Earned:  Uncertainty and change are facts of life.  They are unsettling.  They are painful.  Learn to go with the flow.  Learn to respond, not to react.  Your life’s on the line.

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